How many people have bi-tendancies?

[Luna Tigre]

Hey Michelle! Welcum to the boards!

Just to jump on Shadow and Mel -er, I mean just to jump on to what Shadow and Mel stated earlier, I think the most important person to be honest about sexuality is myself, and then make decisions about who I tell and when based on who they are.

When I was struggling with my bisexual feelings towards guys and having those feelings of 'not being able to be me,' I thought it was because I couldn't tell other people that I thought guys were cute. I kept thinking 'If only I was strong enough to tell my mom,' or 'if only I could just tell some of my friends,' then all the sudden I wouldn't feel so trapped.

But when I finally just accepted for myself that I was bi, without putting conditions on it, or worrying about making it make sense to other people, then all the sudden, I didn't feel so boxed in. Once I was able to say to myself 'I like guys' and let that be okay with me, then I no longer really cared so much who knew and how they felt about it.

Of course, I'd love to scream out loud 'I'M BI AND IT'S SO YUMMY!' but then I think, 'Maybe this grocery clerk really doesn't care if I'm bi or not." lol. (maybe that's just me lol). The fact is, not a lot of people around me know, but whenever anyone asks, I admit my sexuality much more eagerly than I thought I would. As long as I'm okay with me, everyone else can feel however they want.

So I guess my advice is just work on accepting your sexual feelings, whatever they may be and learning to love them for yourself. That way, you can make decisions on who to tell and when based on what works best for your life.

Feel free to share anytime! Glad to hear from you!

Kip