ANNA MALLE died!!!

[Jack59]

I understand and will respect Hank's wishes. But if there could be some way I could at least send flowers.

I just had another crying jag, which is quite unlike me, it just came out of nowhere and there was no stopping it. I had one at work on Thursday, managed to control the sobs but there was no holding back the tears. Nothing has hit me this hard before. I guess Anna meant a lot more to me than even I realized.

[YogaDame]

I'm so sorry. I know it hurts.

If I am able to find information, I will post it here, or attempt to send you a private message, whichever is appropriate.

[Jack59]

Thank you. I would really appreciate that.

I only know Anna by name, and I must say it would be hard to watch a video of hers at this moment.

But I must say that the lesson is that we do not know the time or place of our end. If anything, this teaches us not to postpone life for one minute. Not to tell someone that you love them. Not to accomplish things you want. You must do that now, for there is no other time.

polybi

It's true, Poly: we only have this moment. Anyone who's read Joan Didion's "The Year of Magical Thinking" will learn that. Toward the beginning of the book there is a poem, paraphrased here:

"The instant,
the ordinary instant.
You sit down to dinner
and
life as you know it ends.
The question of self pity."

It's an amazing book and it makes me want to read more of her work.

In case you haven't heard the news, Vicky Vette's husband Frank has passed away from an attempted suicide today...he was found dead by the police in or near his home.

Coming so soon after the passing of her grandmother, this is an especially stunning and devastating blow for Vicky...and I hope that all of you will say a prayer for her and give all your condolences and love to her. She could use it for her grieving and mourning.

May God and Goddess give her all the strength she needs...and it shows the importance of seeing our adult performers as not just masturbation fantasies, but real people who hurt, suffer, and feel like the rest of us do. Having lost my parents these past two years, I understand as much as anyone the grieving and mourning process..but this suddenness still shocks me to no end. Good people like Vicky don't deserve this.

May you finally rest in peace, Frank.

Anthony

I never thought I would be known as wise! :-)

One thing...if you noticed these were human beings, with real lives, with the ability to make you smile. Decent people, yet the only coverage of Anna Hotop-Stout (her real name) were brief mentions on three local TV stations.

Lives should be celebrated at thier ends. Not forgotten.

Don/LA

So tremendously beautiful....I loved the twinkle in her eye on Nina's guides. I wonder if I will ever be able to watch her perform again without crying....Sorry, Nina, I know your Guides were not meant to inspire grief. Odd how things work out that way sometimes. But, I am almost afraid to watch my fave DVDs because I don't know how I will take it if I see Anna again on tape, knowing that she is no longer in this world. But, I guess lots of folks are grieving right now. I wish all of the best for Hank. He's facing the toughest grief of any of us. Hank, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

That's to bad!

Anna was one of my favorite Adult Actresses of all time! I can't believe she's gone! I never knew her, Never met her, All though it would've been a pleasure.

R.I.P. Anna!

[Jack59]

From Anna's website:

Anna's mother has established an educational scholarship fund for persons who have high grade points but need financial assistance. This educational scholarship called the Anna Marie Stout Scholarship fund has been established at Charlotte County Technical Center 18300 Toledo Blade, Port Charlotte, FL 33938 (941) 255-7500

I don't know about the rest of you but I'll be contributing.

Even a month later it's hard to believe she's gone. I'm supposed to be going to Vegas to visit my Mom and Dad on their 50th in May but quite frankly I get more than a little sick to my stomach when I think about setting foot in that town. In my mind too much of Las Vegas is connected to Anna for me to really feel comfortable there. We first met at Club Paradise which is only a block or so from University Medical Center where she died. It was where we made love and then went out to dinner afterwards. Vegas is just Anna's town, she really loved it there. Her spirit will always be there.